5 Steps to Calm Your Nervous System and Let Go of Daily Tension

Stress and tension often have a way of manifesting in our bodies, sometimes without us even realising it. One common but often overlooked sign of underlying stress is clenching or grinding your teeth, known as bruxism. This seemingly small habit can have a significant impact on your jaw, teeth, and overall well-being. If you’re clenching your teeth more often, it may be a signal that your nervous system needs a little help in calming down.

In this article, we’ll explore the connection between bruxism and stress, the role of your nervous system, and practical strategies to help bring more calm to your daily life.

Why Do We Clench Our Teeth?

To understand why teeth clenching happens, it’s helpful to know a bit about the body’s “fight-or-flight” response. When we experience stress, the sympathetic nervous system kicks in, preparing us to either confront a threat or escape it. Physical responses like jaw tension or teeth clenching are often the body’s attempt to manage this stress. Over time, if this response is activated too frequently, it can become a habit, leading to chronic jaw pain, headaches, and even dental damage.

The autonomic nervous system, which regulates our stress responses, has two main components: the sympathetic nervous system (the “fight-or-flight” response) and the parasympathetic nervous system (the “rest-and-digest” response). For many, teeth clenching occurs when the nervous system is stuck in a state of overactivity, unable to fully engage the calming effects of the parasympathetic side.

5 Steps to Calm Your Nervous System

Signs Your Nervous System Needs Calming

Bruxism isn’t the only signal that your body is in a stressed state. Other signs might include:

  • Tension headaches
  • Tightness in the shoulders and neck
  • Digestive discomfort
  • Feeling constantly “on edge” or irritable
  • Difficulty falling or staying asleep

If you’re noticing these symptoms regularly, it could be a sign that your nervous system is struggling to find balance.

5 Practical Ways to Calm Your Nervous System

Thankfully, there are many effective, science-backed techniques for calming the nervous system and reducing teeth clenching and other tension-related symptoms. Here are some of the most effective strategies:

  1. Practice Diaphragmatic Breathing

    Deep breathing exercises are powerful tools for calming the nervous system. Diaphragmatic breathing, where you breathe deeply into your belly, activates the vagus nerve, which helps stimulate the parasympathetic response, promoting relaxation. By slowing down and deepening your breath, you signal to your body that it’s safe to relax.

    Try this: Place one hand on your chest and one on your belly. Inhale deeply through your nose, letting your belly expand as you breathe in. Hold briefly, then exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat for a few minutes to feel a difference.

  2. Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR)

    Progressive Muscle Relaxation is a technique where you systematically tense and then release each muscle group in your body. This practice helps to relieve physical tension and makes you more aware of areas where stress is accumulating, like the jaw and neck. According to the American Psychological Association, PMR is effective in reducing overall stress and anxiety levels.

    Try this: Starting from your feet and moving up, tense each muscle group for a few seconds, then release. Notice how your muscles feel relaxed and heavier after each release.

  3. Jaw Exercises and Massage

    If you’re noticing specific tension in your jaw, gentle massage and stretching exercises can help. Massaging the jaw area, especially around the temporomandibular joint (TMJ), helps release tension and can be part of your nightly routine to ease clenching.

    Try this: Use two fingers to apply gentle pressure in a circular motion on both sides of your jaw. Open and close your mouth slowly, and repeat this a few times to help release tension.

  4. Mindfulness Meditation

    Mindfulness helps train your brain to stay present rather than dwell on stressful thoughts that might trigger clenching. Studies have shown that regular mindfulness practice can improve emotional regulation, which, in turn, can reduce physical manifestations of stress, including jaw tension.

    Try this: Take a few minutes each day to sit quietly and focus on your breath. If your mind wanders, gently bring it back to your breathing.

  5. Establish a Bedtime Routine

    For many people, teeth clenching occurs during sleep. A calming bedtime routine can help ease you into sleep and reduce nighttime bruxism. Avoid caffeine, heavy meals, and screens before bed, and instead try soothing activities like reading or listening to calming music.

The Power of Self-Compassion in Reducing Stress

Alongside these calming techniques, incorporating self-compassion can be highly effective in managing stress and tension. Studies have shown that practising self-compassion can ease the cycle of self-criticism and the high expectations that often accompany stress. By treating yourself kindly and accepting imperfections, you create a buffer against chronic stressors, which can alleviate symptoms such as teeth clenching and other tension-driven habits. Self-compassion practices help build emotional resilience and reduce the physiological impacts of stress, offering a holistic approach to better mental health.

To learn more about the science behind self-compassion and stress, you can explore resources on Mindful.org.

When to Seek Help

If teeth clenching or other signs of stress persist, consider speaking with a healthcare provider. Persistent bruxism can lead to dental issues, and chronic stress may require professional support to effectively manage. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, for example, is often effective in processing distressing memories or stressors that contribute to ongoing tension. This structured approach helps by transforming the emotional and physical responses associated with certain triggers, which could, in turn, reduce physical manifestations of stress like teeth clenching.

Teeth clenching and stress are common challenges in our fast-paced world, but with mindful attention to your body and a few calming practices, you can take positive steps toward feeling more relaxed. Start with one or two of these strategies, build a routine that feels right for you, and remember—taking time to relax is a form of strength, not weakness.

Jeanette Dreyer

Jeanette Dreyer

As a Psychologist with more than 25 years of experience, Jeanette offers a supportive and nurturing environment where her clients can find the support they need to navigate life’s challenges. If you’re ready to begin your journey towards healing and self-discovery, we are here to guide and support you every step of the way.

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